Welcome to the Anti-Style types series! In this series I am breaking down BAD fashion and sharing actionable tips on how to correct these simple styling mistakes.
In today's video is all about Dated Debbie. Dated Debbie hasn’t gone shopping in years (and it shows). I’m not talking a year or two, I’m talking damn near a decade. Life took over (career, family … you know how it goes) and Debbie just stopped shopping.
We'll uncover what's really going on with Debbie and how she can easily update her style.
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Anti-Style Type: Dated Debbie
My whole town is stuck. Not even a WalMart for hundreds of miles. Add a boyfriend who brags about travel and trips with exes but we can't even go to any wholesome community event as he feels there's too much to watch. And push come to shove my dying mother and siblings say I'm very selfish when this video makes me think maybe not.
I understand the ‘style’ dated Debbies might have but I’m sorry I don’t agree with the personna that you have unnecessarily created. Many people shop like maniacs yet, if their style is dated, they will still buy colours and cuts which are dated and old fashioned. It has nothing to do with ‘putting others first’ or having ‘life pass them by’... many mums who put their family’s needs before their own, do buy clothes albeit inexpensive ones...and these clothes can be on trend or they can be dated if that’s their style. Not everything need to be emotionalised.
My coworker dating this woman and her entire outfit looked straight out the 80s. Ponytail out the pastel purple cap, faded jeans, and a sweatshirt. Girlfriend, you make six figures. Go buy yourself a new shirt
You know what? That’s not OK! A big dislike to this video. What is your channel doing exactly ?! Helping everyone be the best version of themselves and finding their unique style or making fun of styles that are not the same as yours ?! And what’s with the detailed psychological movie setting scenario? I think a lot of what you said is just in your head about dated Debbie or whatever. Oh my God did you just say at the end of the video “ anything you’ll buy will be better that what you’re putting on now” ?! I’m unsubscribing from your channel.
Sh*t gets handled when I show up in a dress and heels. I get treated a lot better, earn more money and get a lot more respect. I look at clothing, shoes and makeup as an investment. We are unfortunately judged as women by our appearance. This is increasingly true for men, too.
i have a dated debbie ski jacket. it’s HUGE. so embarrassing. i also have a friend who’s wardrobe is from 1995. she still wears square toed shoes! however, i was jealous when her stacked heeled slides came back in style! hahahahaha!
What if you just don't like anything that's currently in style though? All my clothes are vintage or vintage style simply because I find modern fashion so ugly. I actually buy clothes quite often but always seek out those that are '50s or '60s style. Nothing to do with not caring about how I look.
I remember my paernts jeans were high-wasted and looser(bell-bottoms on both men and women were also a thing back then).
Then it became straight and low-rise(as low as you can go) for the cool kids or baggy pants with zippers and pockets ALL over and acid wash. A lot of acid-wash.
Then came skinny jeans when I entered middle-school, and everyone older thought they looked like sausages-casings on the legs saying "Jeans are not supposed to be so tight and why is the material getting thinner." Materials change, what is "normal"(*average) changes but if you are used to one thing, changes can feel overwhelming.
It is so nice of you to EXPLAIN that dated Debbie's are not stupid fashion-haters. You are 100% on spot. So many women are "trained" and "raised" to put themselves last. Unfortunately, some of them do not have anyone in their lives to stay, "STOP," and encourage them to go shopping, get a facial, have their nails done.....
Here's the ultimate Anti-style tip for you... that judgemental attitude is an accessory you need to drop. Pronto.
You only said "have a sense of humour" to make an excuse for the fact that you actually just wanted to straight up bitch and make fun of people in front of a camera. The phrase "it was just a joke" is such a common excuse bullies make when they're caught out.
I didn't smile once. This was not funny, and you make way too many assumptions and judgements based on what strangers you've never met wear.
But how can you give the hint to someone who has the problem, without them feeling attacked? My aunt is one of the most beautiful women I know. She has great skin, gorgeous eyes, perfect smile, nice hair. When my uncle first introduced her to us I thought 'What a woman'! But she has completely let herself go the last decade, she wears second hand clothes that aren't even cute. No makeup, old jewellery... She still looks ok because of her natural beauty, but... How can it be changed?
I think you can take your aunt along with you when you go shopping or ask to be brought along when she goes to those second hand shops, tell her you are looking for yourself and then you can make suggestions to her or sneak in some fashion advice.
I am a dated Debbie. I literally have that jogging suit, I haven't worn it, but why am I keeping it. I do put everyone else first. I don't even have my own kids, but the nieces, mom, dad comes first. Then I was diagnosed with MS and wondered what's it really matter. I need to pay more attention and let other things go. Interesting! Definitely woke me up. I need to stop putting everyone else and my husband first. What about me! Let's go! Cause it will make me feel better mentally, emotionally, physically!
Love this series.... I have been working over the last year studying. pinteresting, and watching style videos like Lauren's. My problem was having two boys back to back..mom of all boys...having gained weight, realizing I'm in my 30's..late.... 30's....lol and I never had nothing to wear..buying clothes too dressy, with nowhere to go...and tooo casual....because all I did was walk to pick up, drop off kids....I started finally getting into the capsule wardrobes, casual chic....finally buying shoes too...and caring about purses...cute inexpensive... and im loving my clothes lately, it's easier to find something to wear... I never understood about the needs for the essentials, and basics... I really hope people don't get offended at what Lauren is trying to convey... afterall it's coming from her wanting to help us find our style and feel good about ourselves.
I agree with this entirely. I felt exactly the same and now have more things to wear and can dress well for everyday in what I have in the wardrobe. And what's more, I don't spend a fortune on junk clothes anymore, and am much more mindful. Thanks to these videos, I don't have the cash to hire personal stylers, and these people like Lauren help us to look better, and that's a good thing.
"Back in the 90's when women did not put themselves first" ???? Are you serious here? Other them maybe not being triggered or caring about microaggressions women put themselves first in the same way. The 90's just wasn't that long ago. You don't look that young, I would figure you would know.
I don't know, I love vintage. I love levi mom jeans and wear them much more then my skinnies now. I'm not alone either. Especially because high waisted everything is so much better vintage really works today.
Not sure why you're using Steve Jobs as an example. He was an asshole who only had one outfit because he was uncreative af, and got rich and famous by stealing someone else's good idea. He is an outlier. That sort of person will very very rarely make it work. There's a 99.999999% chance you are not that person.
Come tell me clothing isn't part of self care when you get turned down at job interviews and rejected by men because you're completely unwilling to present your best self to the world. Even just getting compliments on your outfit sometimes is good for your mental health.
why are you watching this at all? Clothes tell us a lot about a person. I was a pretty dated debbie until recently, and these vlogs have given me inspiration. That doesn't mean I spend too much money or take it too seriously. I just want to look nice and feel good about myself, and that is her purpose too.
My Dated Debbie moment came 2 years ago, when a friend and I were traveling. We were going out for a nice dinner. She looked at my shoes and said, "You are going to wear those with such beautful clothing? Do you even remember which decade you bought them in? We are getting you new shoes!"
I always put off shopping for shoes, because I know it will literally take me days to find shoes that fit, much less look good. And I can't afford to have shoes custom made. On top of it, I have no tolerance for blisters and sore feet, just to "look good." So, in short - shopping for shoes isn't fun; it's a chore full of character building disappointments.
Good news is- my friend found a shoes store that had one pair of beautiful shoes I could wear. (Only one pair in the entire store fit) And I paid twice as much for them as I planned, but they are great shoes.
Bad news is- pastel is in fashion this year.... and I have some pastel pink shoes from the 90's, that are still in good shape. The heals are a little low, but no one will notice.... right? 🤔
You must know my mom Deborah. I have tried my hardest with her. She could care less. She is such a beautiful woman and doesn't see herself as such. I always try to hook her up with clothing makeup ect. It's just not something she cares about. She knows when we are together I'm going to tell her something because I don't play that. I'm old school with thinking a women should always be dressed and put together. My motto is if you stay ready you don't have to get ready. And grooming and dressing up is another way of showing self love. So ladies love yourself. Even If I feeling bad if I dress up It improves my mood.
Thank you so much, this is SO needed for the many of us who feel stuck and know what we like but don't know where to start our "change" or style upgrade. love your channel and everything you put out <3
This is a big thing for guys I think! They think of clothes as a woman thing, and only their mother and female friends or sister shop for them.
Women see it and keep them in the friend zone and the guys get bitter because they think women are superficial. Meanwhile women see a man that can't even take care of his own basic needs.
If the man gets a girlfriend he turns into a hottie in 1 year and everyone is like; where have you been hiding!
I got to the realization that I was this person late last year. I just got lazy about updating my closet (something I loved to do) but now am getting back in the swing of things after 7 years. My reason for stopping was it was too much hassle & i felt guilty spending money on my clothes instead of on bills, my family etc.....
I will try!! I wear a uniform at work and my 2d job is paralegal I wear classic yuppie-preppy suits ( conservative, classic) as I have to go into the courtroom. So in a way this is a uniform also. And since my husband is an attorney he tones down my creative inner-hippie California girl looks. I have classic wardrobe pieces but I look for help in dressing online as I have had weight fluctuations and am getting older and want age appropriate clothing that is cute.
Excellent advice Lauren! I am 59 and until a few years ago, I put everyone before myself and was not happy. You can think about yourself without leaving everyone else behind. However, when I did start paying attention to my own needs, others called me selfish and a boat-load of other not so nice names. So you have to be able to push all that aside and not worry about what others think.
This makes me sad. Not for the “Dated Debbie’s” but that people actually are welcoming this type of shaming. There’s nothing satirical or entertaining this is ridiculing. I don’t find myself in this video but you said it yourself, people are LIVING! Some people aren’t concerned about “dated” fashion but actually living a purpose driven life without the constraints of what others deem important. I’m kind of upset that YT suggested this.
WithMetta - Angela Merkel has a classic timeless wardrobe. She's a politician, she is neither dated not fashionable. She also has personal stylists. Clothes are very important in politics. Obama was shamed for wearing a light suit because it was considered not professional enough, Margaret Thatcher's wardrobe was power move in a "man's world". Politicians are a terrible example of your point, if they don't care they have advisors and stylists to care for them. The dated Debbie mentioned in the video is someone that could be fashionable ten years ago (not vintage style though) and never bothered since. If anything, find a celebrity to prove your point, politicians are all about image.
I think you can still thrift and look great on a budget. :D My favorite places are Buffalo Exchange, Plato's closet, Thredup or Poshmark. They're so affordable for a student budget and sometimes higher quality than F21 or HM.
I believe her humor just comes off as condescending, but I don’t believe she’s trying to shame or hurt people. As unfortunate as it sounds these types aren’t very stylish. But style can always be improved and still match the persons daily life/personality.
I know a bunch of dated Debbie's. I just got back from a quilt retreat and one of my dated Debbie friends said I looked like I was dressed for a coffee date with friends because I was dressed on casual chic with my hair fixed and not the schlepping baggy old lady Capris and baggy T like the rest. I just smiled and said I enjoy fashion. I felt like my outfit was casual eough and I liked it. I have learned so much from you Lauren .
OMG! This made me laugh. So true! I have a couple of oversized 80's GAP sweatshirts I couldn't part with. And...I have seen similar at the stores. I rarely wore them out of the house, but I have recently. LOL. I'm still laughing.
I purge my closet every six months just to keep it fresh and current. I look for signs of wear and ask , have I worn it in the past season? It makes room for new stuff so I look modern but appropriate (60 yr old) and replacing worn out basics.
I was a dated debbie! I worked with only men in IT, often from home, and focused on raising my son and caring for my mother. I finally got sick of my friends saying mean things about my clothes and feeling like I could not find an outfit that felt like me. It took a solid year of hard work but now I have clothes that fit me correctly, work with my body type, and are my style. Your videos were a good resource.
youtimeful You did great raising a son, working in IT and taking care of your mom. That's commendable. What kind of friends would make you feel left out because of clothes but not praise you for being such a accomplished human being? Values!
This is a great video. We women can so easily get into a style rut even when we don't work.Also Lauren, you look so fresh and refined with your new do. Your face really comes through. You look really chic and in control of your look!! Thanks for sharing this series, I'll be watching!!
Evelyn S. Lmao...im a stay at home mom and i got caught up in this for about 3 years. Never thinking about myself. Kids were first when it came to EVERYTHING. Its not a bad thing in my opinion. Means i love my kids but, there wasn't a healthy balance between loving myself and my kids.
LOL what time machine did you crawl out of? Yaaay Lauren I appreciate your video you are hilarious AND informative!!! Kinda scary to watch this lol because I see myself in some of those Dated Debbie examples!! When you said you can hear the mean comments now I was thinking you were going to say "Lighten up this is only FASHION!" Thanks Lauren, Your videos really do rock. LOL we can't fix a problem until first we identify we have one ;)
I think a lot of folks here are missing the point... holding onto classic, timeless, vintage pieces is one thing; but what Lauren is saying is that putting yourself last and not caring about how you present yourself to the world often manifests itself via a dated wardrobe. No one is telling you to get rid of your vintage wrap dresses or jewelry people.
Great point but not always true. I've cleaned out HUNDREDS of closet and often times things are on a new level of "old." Think a grown adult women still rocking a sweater from high school. The quality is poor, the fit was never meant for an adult woman ... I see things like that all the time. That's a "Dated Debbie"
My sister had a talk with me recently.....I was falling into that dated Debbie styling.
And I took my sis advice and started thinking about me,now I'm dressing to empress/success the results were fantastic.
Thank you Lauren you're a style angel
Hi Lauren! Gorgeous with this hair! Fits you= taugh, stylish and with a great sense of humor :-) I loved the "original" style-types and I am looking forward to these new ones! Really like that you look behind the clothes and explain why we dress in a certain way. Hugs from Norway
If the people that are dressing in dated Debbie looks are happy; who are you to judge them? How do you know they do not feel good about the way they look? You think they are unhappy, because dressing in that manner would make YOU unhappy. Until we have walked in THEIR shoes we should not judge them. No need to block me, I am unsubscribing - this video shows a view I find non entertaining. I hear men on a daily basis diss on as you say “dated Debbie” looks and they are shameful for only looking at aesthetics, but to hear it from a self designated style expert is sad.
This is for people who WANT to change. Some Dated Debbies are very happy and don't care about their style - that's completely cool with me. I have cleaned out hundreds of closets and have worked with thousands of women who need these "style awakenings" to move forward in their lives. Thanks for watching and sorry to see you go. XO
How can I avoid looking like a Dated Debbie when I have certain old pieces that I still love to wear? Colors and cuts go in and out of style, so I like to stock up on things I look and feel good in whenever they're available. Sometimes that means wearing a new blouse with 15 year old shorts... Where do you draw the line between including some vintage pieces in your wardrobe (cool) and looking dated (not cool)?
I love fashion and shopping, but I know deep down that it's a consumer trap. To stay afloat, retail stores need for us to feel that our old clothes are no longer adequate or acceptable. I say, keep what you love and take really good care of it, get it altered if necessary, and rock it! Hold on to your old shorts if they're in good condition. Sometimes newer things make old things blend right in!
I think another contributing factor may be that our "sense of style" and vision in ours heads of "what is stylish" is formed at a certain age, say in college, so we continually go back to this image when evaluating style choices. Sometimes this happens to me, sometimes I don't know about it, but other times I am able to catch myself and have to ask "is this cool now? or was it cool then?" (Ok "cool" probably isn't the "cool" word to use anymore, case in point...)
Oh, and on that note, a video request: "The 'It' Fit" - how basics (T's, sweaters, jeans...) should fit today. I feel like these evolve subtly over time, and suddenly my fitted V-neck sweater is no longer stylish, but oversized crewnecks tucked in are apparently...
EXCELLENT point! That's what I learned many years ago about not only clothing styles, but also hair and makeup. We tend to cling to an era that we think we were on top of our game, and then by keeping that same style (clothes, hair, makeup), we are trying to recreate the feelings and confidence we had at that point.
Well i've been in the same situation now..i never dress best for me for a long time..i just feel comfortable wearing pants and tshirt..never wear dress ever..so sad i wasted my 20s not trying new style or clothes
Me too, I am trying to guess what they might be. I know there will be one for people who dress way too young for their job and age. I also bet there will be one for people who dress like porn stars. Maybe one for people who lost a lot of weight and never got new clothes (or gained some weight and never got new clothes).
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Bricolajul a ajuns in Romania in urma cu aproximativ 10 ani, insa in Statele Unite si in statele occidentale acest concept este mai vechi, si isi are originile la inceputul anilor ’50. Bricolajul se refera la capacitatea oamenilor de a crea sau repara diverse obiecte fara a apela la ajutor specializat.
Primul catalog de bricolaj pentru renovarea locuintei a aparut in 1968. Acesta a nascut conceptul de bricolaj care sta la baza lanturilor de magazine din zilele noastre. De la covoare si perdele, pana la mobilier si prefabricate, bricolajul se refera la tot ce inseamna renovarea unei locuinte in aceasta acceptiune.
Pe orlo.ro gasesti toate cataloagele de bricolaj, de la cei mai importanti comercianti. Catalog Dedeman, Catalog Praktiker, Catalog Baumax, Catalog Bricostore, Catalog Ambient si altii.
In Romania retelele de magazine pentru bricolaj sau extins rapid, cel mai important comerciant din acest segment este Dedeman, care a pornit din orasul Bacau si a ajuns sa detina magazine in cele mai importante orase din tara.